Wednesday, September 28, 2011
Sunday, September 11, 2011
Saturday, September 10, 2011
Failure of Empathy
Read "Cat in the Rain" by Ernest Hemingway and "Tricks" by Thomas Cooper. I enjoyed them both: I liked the hotel keeper in Cat, and I enjoyed [what I believed to be] the happy ending in Tricks.
As far as discussion went, there was a lot of focus on the woman from Cat and the girl in Tricks, both of which I thought was undue. Neither relationship issues nor mental handicaps are the focus of the respective poems. Instead, both are focused on the failure of empathy, and how detrimental it can be to relationships both romantic and familial.
An acquaintance I know asked me a while ago what I thought of people with no empathy: How do you react to them? Can you even begin to comprehend them? What are your thoughts on them?
Usually, I can see where they're coming from, but I don't really accept their mindset. Complete objectivity is almost inhumane. I can't stand it.
Personally, I've struggled communicating the basis of my choices or decisions to others. I place great emphasis on emotion in my decision-making, and often I know a choice I'm going to make far before I can justify it. I trust my gut feelings. Unfortunately, intuition is poor justification for a decision, and I have to scramble to back up my decisions with logic-based reasoning in group environments.
I have yet to decide whether intuition-oriented thinking is a boon or an inhibition.
[Repost from Tumblr]
Thursday, September 8, 2011
Relocation!
The blog has been moved to:
http://mandatoryliposuction.tumblr.com
I might move it back in the future, but for now I will be using tumblr.
Monday, September 5, 2011
Friday, September 2, 2011
"Enthusiasm is one of the most powerful engines of success. When you do a thing, do it with all your might. Put your whole soul into it. Stamp it with your own personality. Be active, be energetic, be enthusiastic and faithful and you will accomplish your object. Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm."
~R.W. Emerson
~R.W. Emerson
Thursday, August 18, 2011
Psychology, Love Languages
Recently, I've been reading a lot of psychology stuff. Fascinating stuff, really. Here's a list of books I have read/am reading/want to read:
Outliers - Malcolm Gladwell
Blink - Malcolm Gladwell
The Tipping Point - Malcolm Gladwell
What the Dog Saw - Malcolm Gladwell
Drive - Daniel Pink
Emotional Intelligence - Daniel Goleman
Split Second Persuasion - Kevin Dutton
The Optimism Bias - Tali Sharot
The Wisdom of the Enneagram - Don Riso
Play - Stuart Brown
At the same time, I've done a little introspective thinking, using a combination of personality tests and online forums to guide my thinking. Here are some interesting tests (for anyone who cares, which I suspect is not many):
Outliers - Malcolm Gladwell
Blink - Malcolm Gladwell
The Tipping Point - Malcolm Gladwell
What the Dog Saw - Malcolm Gladwell
Drive - Daniel Pink
Emotional Intelligence - Daniel Goleman
Split Second Persuasion - Kevin Dutton
The Optimism Bias - Tali Sharot
The Wisdom of the Enneagram - Don Riso
Play - Stuart Brown
At the same time, I've done a little introspective thinking, using a combination of personality tests and online forums to guide my thinking. Here are some interesting tests (for anyone who cares, which I suspect is not many):
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My type: ENFJ
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Enneagram
My tritype is 2w3, 6w7, 1w9 - the "Helper Advocate."
Some stuff from a my test results.
My tritype is 2w3, 6w7, 1w9 - the "Helper Advocate."
Some stuff from a my test results.
In enneagram theory, you have one type for how you relate to the world (either 8, 9, or 1), one type for how you think (5, 6, 7) and one type for how you see yourself (2, 3, 4.) Your tri-type contains one number from each of these triads. They are listed in the order of how strongly they present in your personality.
Your core type (your strongest type) is Type 2 with a 3 wing: Type Two individuals are generous and kind. Twos love others and want to be loved, and becoming close to others is a theme in the life of the Two. This is why Two is often referred to as the Helper type – because they keep coming, time and time again, to the aid of others. Out of all the types in the Enneagram, Twos are the most likely to help someone when they’re feeling down or when they’re being attacked. When a Type Two is stressed, they can become aggressive like an unhealthy Type Eight. When they’re healthy, a Type Two becomes emotionally aware like a healthy Type Four. You are a Type Two with a Three wing, which means that the helpful nature of the Two combines with the ambitious nature of the Three, making you a very driven individual.
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Some words that describe you: principled, moralistic, perfectionist, self-critical, generous, helpful, selfless, loving, loyal, reliable, anxious, skeptical.
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Your core type (your strongest type) is Type 2 with a 3 wing: Type Two individuals are generous and kind. Twos love others and want to be loved, and becoming close to others is a theme in the life of the Two. This is why Two is often referred to as the Helper type – because they keep coming, time and time again, to the aid of others. Out of all the types in the Enneagram, Twos are the most likely to help someone when they’re feeling down or when they’re being attacked. When a Type Two is stressed, they can become aggressive like an unhealthy Type Eight. When they’re healthy, a Type Two becomes emotionally aware like a healthy Type Four. You are a Type Two with a Three wing, which means that the helpful nature of the Two combines with the ambitious nature of the Three, making you a very driven individual.
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Some words that describe you: principled, moralistic, perfectionist, self-critical, generous, helpful, selfless, loving, loyal, reliable, anxious, skeptical.
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My type: SCOAI (SCo|A|I)
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1 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
4 Receiving Gifts
6 Acts of Service
10 Physical Touch
On a scale of 1-12, with 12 being the highest, this measures how much you value each type of expression of emotion.
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